If you are:
- Making excuses for why men “aren’t all like that”
- Telling women that only a small percentage of men rape
- Talking over survivors experiences
- Blaming survivors for their attacks
- Victim blaming/Slut shaming
- Telling women that the way they dressed/acted/drank…
Um, men aren’t all like that. I agree with the rest though.
No. You missed the point of my post entirely, the very first bullet. Good job.
No, I didn’t. Perhaps you could explain the point of the first bullet? My interpretation is that you’re implying that by making excuses for why men “aren’t all like that” that they are all like that and so when we say otherwise, we’re defending a falsehood that is actually true.
Let’s break this down. 1 in 6 women are raped. 1 in 33 men are raped. 99% of rapists are men. Who is doing all that raping? We know that most rape ISN’T stranger rape. Most rape is committed by someone the victim knows, a friend, family member, acquaintance, boyfriend, husband. Men who think they own women. Men who don’t care about consent.
Why do they think that? A big reason is because society normalizes rape. They blame the victims and defend and protect the rapist. They say that men rape because that’s “just how they are.” They do that through rape jokes, through victim blaming/slut shaming, through people who, when confronted with evidence of rape culture still say, “but not all men are like that?”
Not every man rapes. That is NOT just how they are. But a whole heck of a lot of them do, maybe because they want to, because they think they have a right to other people’s bodies, or maybe because they don’t know that what they are doing is rape. If you run around making excuses for rapists, you ARE defending them. You are protecting rape culture. Instead of saying, “well not EVERY man rapes,” perhaps you should try and educated about explicit consent, about bodily autonomy, about rape culture.
THAT’S how you fight rape culture.
fuck rape culture.